Divorced

Allot of people were not aware that Derek and I divorced. I am not real sure why we kept it quiet for so long but as the word is getting out we are finding that most people are just shocked. I will try to clear up as many questions as I can with out getting into all of this to deeply. First and foremost we have both done the best we can at keep our kids happy and as settled as possible. We are so blessed to have great kids and they have been amazing.

Derek did file for divorce. It was not unexpected or surprising. Our divorce was final 05/05/09 happy cinco de mayo! We did not have attorneys and we did not argue over anything. We have joint custody of our children and they stay in the house Derek and I shuffle around them. I stay there when he works or wants to go out and he stays there the rest of the time. We would have much rathered moved around them then to have them be shuffled or forced to make a choice so far it has worked out well.

I live with a friend Julie and I am blessed to have her in my life, our meeting was a total act of God putting us both in the same place at the same time. She was also going through a divorce and needed a room mate and it just worked out. Derek will be selling the house and is moving into one a few miles from me and Julie which will make it even better for our children.

Now to clear up any and all rumors that we have both heard!

Neither Derek or I had an affair. Honestly neither of us has the time for that. We were both very loyal and faithful during our 19 years of marriage..

Neither of us is gay! PLEASE anyone who knows us should never have to ask. Several people have questioned on if I moved in with a female because I "crossed over" UH no.....and I promise that is not even a concern with Derek! I think after having 5 kids we would never have to address that issue.

Neither of us EVER asked people to choose who they wanted to be friends with or who they needed to be loyal to. Some of our friends have chosen to do that but that was their choice not ours. As far as family goes. Mine is pretty much cool. Rebecca even spent the 4th of July with Derek and his family while I just chilled out. His on the other hand has chosen to rake me over the coals and has cost them their relationship with him and that is sad. His sister and sister in law have been a constent source of pain for him and seem to think it is ok to talk to my children about me even going as far as to tell them I had an affair. Maybe before casting stones they should look deep into themselves and leave me alone.

I really cant tell you why the divorce happened execpt that we never really spent much time together the last couple of years and just grew apart. We still remain very close frineds and talk several times a day. I do hope that clairfys as much as possible. I apologize for those of you that didnt know and found out by accident. We have learned who our frineds are and what family really means. We are both also blessed to have great kids and a handful of friends that did stay loyal..............................Beth